Parents - appreciated as much as they deserve?

[x42bn6]

This festive season, I was just wondering about all the parents who spend Christmas alone without their grown-up children. And then it got me thinking - are parents appreciated as much as they deserve in society?

In Asian culture, we are taught to be filial and are instilled family values. The eldest child has a duty to help his parents through retirement and old age, for example.

I have also heard that Western Culture does not instill as much as this, and wondered or not if it is true. Independence and ignorance are two things, I believe - yet it might well be true that Western children are less likely to appreciate their parents as Asian children.

We've all heard stories of parents being "dumped" at old peoples' homes, or parents dying without their children knowing, or unwanted parents after marriage, and in-laws. What do you think of these? Personally, I find it disgusting that any child would be willing to leave his parents unattended to for anything, but I an neutral regarding old peoples' homes - if they can care better for my parents, then they should be there, but my parents will have to be fine with it.

That said, I hope that this festive season, if some of you are not close to your parents, Christmas is a nice excuse to call them.*

[TrOiK]

Around here all the kids hate there parents cause they down let them do drugs and smoke weed and ground them for doing bad things that will **** them up in the long run no one around here knows how hard it is to be a parent and why the parents and doing this Everyone need to respect there ****ing parent jesus. And the whole dumping ur parents off thing me and my dad had a long discussion about this and he says when hes at the point to where he needs help to whipe his ass n **** he wants to me to kill him.

[x42bn6]

Originally Posted by VaaN

Around here all the kids hate there parents cause they down let them do drugs and smoke weed and ground them for doing bad things that will **** them up in the long run no one around here knows how hard it is to be a parent and why the parents and doing this Everyone need to respect there ****ing parent jesus. And the whole dumping ur parents off thing me and my dad had a long discussion about this and he says when hes at the point to where he needs help to whipe his ass n **** he wants to me to kill him.

Yeah, I know what you mean, sort of (use this: .). Some teenagers don't know what is best for their future. Or they are determined to do it because their parents say no.*

[TrongaMonga]

Someone fed you for 20 years. I think that's more than enough reason to respect them.

However, some parents are indeed bad, they just feed you because otherwise they'd be arrested.

It does depends on the situation, really. I absolutely love my parents, because they're the best someone can have, since they're mine.

[TrOiK]

Originally Posted by Condestavel

Someone fed you for 20 years. I think that's more than enough reason to respect them.

However, some parents are indeed bad, they just feed you because otherwise they'd be arrested.

It does depends on the situation, really. I absolutely love my parents, because they're the best someone can have, since they're mine.

I think hes making an like opinionated assumtion like a just think that all the parents are loving and careing. the kids hate them cause there gay.

[x42bn6]

Originally Posted by Condestavel

Someone fed you for 20 years. I think that's more than enough reason to respect them.

However, some parents are indeed bad, they just feed you because otherwise they'd be arrested.

It does depends on the situation, really. I absolutely love my parents, because they're the best someone can have, since they're mine.

MY DAD IS BETTER THAN YOUR DAD BECAUSE...

Being still, to me, a child (at 18?!), I am blessed with the understanding that whatever my parents do for me, no matter how stupid I think they are, they do it because of love. Even the strangest text messages from my mother telling me to wear gloves during the winter coming from the most inappropriate time.

I feel that because we have been blessed to come into this world by our parents, it is only fitting that we return the favour by loving them back. Nothingness is worse than having a bad life. So even if your parents loathe you, you should try and love them anyway.*

[Tipsy]

Originally Posted by x42bn6

In Asian culture, we are taught to be filial and are instilled family values. The eldest child has a duty to help his parents through retirement and old age, for example.

I have also heard that Western Culture does not instill as much as this, and wondered or not if it is true. Independence and ignorance are two things, I believe - yet it might well be true that Western children are less likely to appreciate their parents as Asian children.

We've all heard stories of parents being "dumped" at old peoples' homes, or parents dying without their children knowing, or unwanted parents after marriage, and in-laws. What do you think of these? Personally, I find it disgusting that any child would be willing to leave his parents unattended to for anything, but I an neutral regarding old peoples' homes - if they can care better for my parents, then they should be there, but my parents will have to be fine with it.

Personally, I think that the whole notion of the family unit in general in western culture is evolving (or devolving, depending on your view). The notion of sacrifice for family, be it a parent to have or continuing supporting a child, to the child helping a parent. Just as my opinion, I would put say the root causes are individualism pushed to an extreme and an increase in the government's role in our lives. At least around where I live, a lot people just don't view it as their role to take care of their parents. I think it is unhealthy for society as a whole, however I view it as their choice to make, however undesirable.

[Arxces]

I think that the current generation needs to look into the future, into how they would like to be treated, and then apply this to how they treat their parents. They then must be conscious of the values that they instill into their children, in order that these children grow up to love and respect them. Herein lies the problem: the current generation is too caught up in living in the moment and not observing the ties that bind us all. We forget that someday we become old. We are too caught up in our fast moving lives to think about our ending days and how we'd like to be taken care of. Individualism breeds individualism, and it is fine if that is one's choice. However if it isn't then one must start instilling new values into one's offspring.