What do you think

[Emperor Pan I]

Is it better to be loved, or feared?

[Eric]

I like the nice medium of being respected. They both have nice pros and bad cons. I'd rather be respected, while not quite being feared, but also being loved at the same time? You know what I mean? You can have both in moderation.

[Angelicpower]

Well if I had only those 2 options..loved or feared..I would much rather be loved, I don't want anyone to be in any kind of fear when I am around..no one should be feared, not even parents...fear is a terrible thing for anyone to have to live with ~ love is peaceful and giving on both sides!

[-Azrael666-]

It's better to be loved by your friends and feared by your enemies.

Or, if you meant in a physical sense, then if you fear being ass raped and it happens, you are both fearing and loving your attacker at the same time.

[Jason]

Originally Posted by -Azrael666-

It's better to be loved by your friends and feared by your enemies.

Or, if you meant in a physical sense, then if you fear being ass raped and it happens, you are both fearing and loving your attacker at the same time.

I'm gonna have to go with this guy. :dance

[Emperor Pan I]

what about collegues? Neither friends nor enemys. If your a ruler of a country, do you want your people to be afraid, and risk a rebellion, or be loved and risk a coup? If people love you to much they take advantage, if they fear you, they might try and get rid of you in favor of osmeone else. This was more the standpoint I was seeing which I would take. A balance would be best, but between the two which is better?

[Bret]

Originally Posted by _Eric

I like the nice medium of being respected. They both have nice pros and bad cons. I'd rather be respected, while not quite being feared, but also being loved at the same time? You know what I mean? You can have both in moderation.

This is the first thing I thought of as well. I'd more rather be respected then fear/hated and loved.

[amrtin77]

Most definately loved. There is no advantage fear has that love doesn't.. Unless you just want to be mean to people. But if everyone loves you, what do you have to be afraid of?

[Emperor Pan I]

People also take advantage of kindness, remember that. Alot of times if your honest, someone will come in lie and steal from you, all for his own gain. Humans are nothing more than self-centered animals that will step over most people to get what they want.

[amrtin77]

I don't think anyone can say they love someone if they are willing to hurt that person to help themselves.

[Magikarp]

Fear is obviously a good way to make things happen for you. If someone fears you, they'll probably do what you say, depending on the degree of fear. Love can also do the same thing. Fear might get you a lot in a short time, but it'll collapse eventually (Under most circumstances). Love will probably not give people the same intense "motivation" as fear does, but it'll probably last longer.

Example: I love my sister, so I don't mind doing favors for her, but I probably won't do anything she says.

I fear Azrael, so I'll probably be his bitch because I don't want him to rape me.

So, you should embrace both ends of the spectrum.

[Tupac Amaru Shakur]

You need both actually. Every here the phrase too much of anything is bad? Too much chocolate will get you sick. Too much food will make you fat and more fulnerable to disease. Too much fear will change you and even drive you crazy if you arent strong enough. Too much love will make you sick of it and despise the ones that love you. Either as friends family or bf/gf. Both are needed to establish a balanced nature.

[ShadowSpectrum]

I would want friends to love me, and enemies to fear me. But I would want people who don't know me to neither love, or hate me.

[TheJanitor]

You have to choose one or the other . I'd choose love, with fear comes hate and when people hate you, you get fcuked.

[Rock_on]

it is better to be loved because with fear comes oucast, anger, and assasination

[Carrot Man]

loved.

has anyone seen the "to challenge the sun" episodes of full metal alchemist?

[bbags]

being loved is always great but feared is the thing all men are looking for from others

[Lights]

Erm, well, depends on what you mean.

In everyday life, would I rather be loved or feared by my peers? Well, loved of course. Who could want to be feared, and most probably hated, by those around him?


But if you are talking about people who I were to be placed over, those who I wish to have follow my orders, not to be friend with... Well, that's a good bit tougher. Barring my own personal feelings, of course, it's hard to say.

With love, you have them wanting to please you. They would want to help you out, because of their feelings toward you. That's a positive. But. What happens when something compromises that love? What happens when a decision comes across them that might be beneficial to them, but at the cost of you? Will their love for you be enough?

With fear, true fear, there might not be that worry. Who would go against you if they feared for their life? Their actions would be swift and without delay, for fear of pissing you off. But. Will they try to sneak around you, for their hate? Will their hate be stronger than their fear or fear stronger than hate?


Tough to say. In the extreme of both, I suppose all that matters is if you want them to like you or not. Either way they will do as you'de like - for blindness of love or for pure fear of failure.


And I think I thought about this whole thing a little too hard. >_>

[The Soviet]

I would rather be feared and respected then just loved. Fear gives you control over the masses. Love can never create total control.

[aphextwin]

loved... being feared will end up being a failure like hitler